We’ve got to name these wounds. We’ve got to enter into them, touch them, heal them, verbalize and then release them so that we can be the people that we were created to be.” Joe Ehrmann

Wounds from your past can have a devastating impact on the way you feel about yourself and others. In this episode, the second in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann teach how to identify and heal those wounds that make it difficult for you to truly love and be loved. Topics discussed include how a deeply personal experience with his young son led Joe to reflect on his own relationship with his father; how an incident in Brian’s childhood inspired his motivation to succeed in life; and why healing is not about affixing blame, but about understanding what shaped you.





  • The three basic questions we all have about identity, intimacy and industry.
  • How we can be wounded by our nature, our nurture and our culture.
  • Why the number one wound in our society is the father wound.



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“I think all of us come into this world with three basic questions. And the first is a question of identity: Who am I? The second is a question of intimacy: Who will love me? And the third is one of industry: What can I do with my life?” – Joe Ehrmann

“Most people want to change their circumstances, but they don’t want to change themselves. The challenge is, if you change yourself, circumstances will change also.” – Brian Buffini

“If you have a pebble in your shoe and you leave it there, you’re eventually going to develop a limp. And you can learn to walk through life with a limp, but it’s better to go back, take it out, then learn to walk properly and then maybe help others get this pebble out of their shoe.” – Brian Buffini

“We share our woundedness with others to offer that as a hope for healing.” – Joe Ehrmann

“A wound is some unresolved issue. And it’s not the fact that we’re wounded in life. It’s a decision we make as adults to deal with them.” – Joe Ehrmann

“All of us have woven into us this deep need for satisfaction. To be unconditionally loved, to be known for who and what we are and to be accepted for that.” – Joe Ehrmann

If you give with an open hand, you’ll see an abundance that you never imagined.” Brian Buffini

The Law of the Harvest is an age-old principle of success with a very modern application in today’s world.  In this episode, recorded live at the Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit, Brian explains why you reap what you sow, how the three elements of the law work together and why this powerful formula for success can transform not only your business, but your life too.



  • Why you must first give if you want to receive.
  • Why giving earns you the right to ask.
  • How to grow your business, your influence and yourself.



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Boundaries,” by Henry Cloud



“Humility is the soil that’s required for every growth.” – Brian Buffini

“Here’s the formula: It’s 80 percent give, it’s 10 percent ask and it’s 10 percent grow.” – Brian Buffini

“You need to be able to have value and communicate your value. And, if you can do that, you’ll have all the customers you can handle.” – Brian Buffini

“Can you put your name to that?” – Harry Buffini

“Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value.” – Albert Einstein

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” – Cicero

“You become more influential the more you grow yourself.” – Brian Buffini

“Confront your inadequacies and push your personal boundaries. It’s the surest way to grow, improve and expand the scope of your influence.” – John C. Maxwell

“If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.” Zig Ziglar

“All of life is about relationships. It has to do with the capacity to love and to be loved.”
– Joe Ehrmann


All of us long to love and be loved, but giving and receiving love is also one of the most difficult challenges we face in life. In this episode, the first in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann teach why we must better understand and love ourselves so that we can love other people and receive love in return. Topics discussed include how damaging ideals of masculinity and femininity are passed from generation to generation; how we can recognize and reject these false concepts of who and what we are; and how we can correct and redefine our models for humanity, improve our relationships and discover our true purpose.





  • Three lies of the false self for men.
  • Three lies of the false self for women.
  • Two criteria to measure success as a human being.



Season of Life,” by Jeffrey Marx

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“All of us have been wounded on life’s journey, and we’ve got to find some kind of healing so that we can be connected to people at our deepest levels, intimately with our souls and with care and compassion and with empathy.” – Joe Ehrmann

“We’ve got all these young boys and girls looking for all the wrong things in each other and none of them feeling good about who and what they are, because there’s this tremendous sense that ‘I don’t measure up’.” – Joe Ehrmann

“If you don’t come to grips with your own woundedness and your own pain, your own false concepts and false self-identity, then these problems are going to go from generation to generation.” – Joe Ehrmann

“If you haven’t been relationally successful, life ends up becoming extremely unfulfilling. You can only measure success in terms of relationships.” – Joe Ehrmann

“At the end of your life, you ought to be able to look back over and know that the world is a different place, a better place because you lived, you loved and you were involved, and you live that as some kind of other centered purpose.” – Joe Ehrmann

Instead of a cancel culture, we need a kindness culture.  Instead of engaging in conflict, we have to engage in discourse.” Brian Buffini


Division is everywhere in our world today. In this episode, Brian reflects on why people have become separated and teaches how we can come together to be more unified. He explains why this is one of the most unusual times in our history, shares some observations about where we are in our cultural dialogue and outlines proactive steps everyone can take to heal and reunite.





  • Why respect for others is so important.
  • How to have grace.
  • Why we shouldn’t conform.



The Third Option: Hope for a Racially Divided Nation,” by Miles McPherson

How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie

Dead Poets Society,” movie

How to Love and Be Loved, podcast series with Joe Ehrmann



“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” – Winston Churchill

“All tyranny needs to gain a foothold is for people of good conscience to remain silent.” – Thomas Jefferson

“Nothing great has ever happened from hate.” – Brian Buffini

“Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.” – Dale Carnegie

“If there’s any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” – Henry Ford

“You never really understand a person until you consider things from their point of view.” – Harper Lee

“The smallest change in perspective can change a life.” – Oprah Winfrey

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” – Marcus Aurelius

“It’s not what you look at that matters. It’s what you see.” – Henry David Thoreau

“In diversity, there is beauty and there is strength.” – Maya Angelou

“The whole is greater than the sum of the parts.”– Aristotle

“None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Kenneth Blanchard

“Diversity: the art of thinking independently together.” – Malcolm Forbes

“If we find ourselves becoming critical of other people, we should stop examining them and start examining ourselves.” – William Barclay

“I do not understand the mystery of grace, only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us.” – Anne Lamott

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain

“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.” – President John F. Kennedy

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Conformity is the last refuge of the unimaginative.” – Oscar Wilde

“I still believe America’s best days are yet to come.” – Brian Buffini

Heroes are not ordinary people who do extraordinary things. They are, in fact, extraordinary people who choose not to be ordinary.” Kevin Brown


The world needs heroes – people who lead, love and serve at a higher level. In this episode, Brian interviews author and speaker Kevin Brown about what it really means to be a hero. Kevin describes how he spiraled out of control as a teenager, how a special mentor helped to change the course of his life and how his son Josh’s diagnosis of autism and his wife’s resultant refusal to simply accept the storyline that life had given their child have inspired and influenced him immeasurably.



  • Why we all need coaches to improve.
  • Why the best sales principles never change.
  • Why our understanding of heroism should be redefined.



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The Hero Effect,” by Kevin Brown


The Strangest Secret,” by Earl Nightingale

Biscuits, Fleas & Pump Handles,” by Zig Ziglar

The Greatest Salesman in the World,” by Og Mandino

The Spellbinder’s Gift,” by Og Mandino



“There’s a lot of role models that show up in our lives. Some good, some bad. Some teach us just what not to be like, and others teach us exactly what we should be like.” – Kevin Brown

“The skill sets of selling and being able to communicate profoundly changed my life financially and professionally.” – Kevin Brown

“Your past is a place of reference, not a place of residence.” – Kevin Brown

“We all need coaches. We all need people that will pour into us and make us better than we could have ever been on our own.” – Kevin Brown

“I believe that we were created with talents, gifts and abilities as unique as our fingerprints. And the truth of the matter is, the definition of a hero has been redefined in my life over the last decade to be not ordinary people doing extraordinary things, but to be extraordinary people who choose not to be ordinary.” – Kevin Brown

“Ordinary is a choice.” – Kevin Brown

“It’s amazing to me when you’ve got a compelling vision for your life and for your business the resources start to show up.” – Kevin Brown

“So many people get up every day and they accept the storyline that life gives them. They accept it as their truth and they walk it out every single day and they never give one single thought to the fact that the pen is in their hands, always.” – Kevin Brown

“Never stop searching for the gifts that you were given.” – Kevin Brown


Leadership is not discovered; leadership is uncovered.Brian Buffini

We are all required to be leaders in many areas of our lives, whether that’s in our families, our careers or our businesses. In this episode, recorded live at Buffini & Company’s most elite event, The Peak Experience, Brian explains why great leadership starts with you and why you should embrace your unique gifts, styles and opportunities as you lead in life and in business.



  • Why you must uncover your own leadership style.
  • Seven chaotic leadership styles.
  • Five qualities of an exceptional leader.



 The Peak Experience

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey

Graceland,” by Paul Simon



“I cannot give you a formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: try to please everybody.” – Herbert Swope

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” – Stephen R. Covey

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw

“None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Ken Blanchard

“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” – Albert Schweitzer

“You set a goal, and you hit the goal, and you beat the goal – and winning becomes who you are.” – Brian Buffini

“Bear in mind your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other thing.” – Brian Buffini

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more you are a leader.” – John Quincy Adams

The American Dream has always been classified as an aspiration to own your own piece of real estate.” Brian Buffini


Homeownership is the cornerstone of the American Dream. In this episode, Brian explains why real estate has been the making of him in his career, as a provider for his family and as a primary source of investment. Topics discussed include why people’s homes were their refuge during the COVID-19 pandemic, why owning is better than renting and why, for many people, the mortgage interest write-off could be the difference between being a renter and being an owner.

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  • Why homeownership increases personal wealth and well-being.
  • Why homeownership promotes stronger families and neighborhoods.
  • Why homeownership is good for the economy.



Episode 124,Getting the Mortgage Monkey Off Your Back



“Food, shelter and clothing are the three predominant needs of humanity and owning a home answers one of those.” Brian Buffini

“The house of everyone is to him as his castle and fortress.” Edward Coke

“Home should be an anchor, a port in a storm, a refuge, a happy place in which to dwell, a place where we are all loved, and where we can love.” Marvin J. Ashton

“As an immigrant, I didn’t feel like I belonged in America until I owned a home.” Brian Buffini

“A house is made with walls and beams. A home is made with love and dreams.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Real estate cannot be lost or stolen, nor can it be carried away. Purchased with common sense, paid for in full and managed with reasonable care, it is about the safest investment in the world.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Having a home and buying real estate, even buying investment real estate, is a phenomenal goal to set your mind on, and a great set of goals to have as the end to which all your efforts are directed.” Brian Buffini

“There’s something permanent, and something extremely profound in owning a home.” Kenny Guinn

“90 percent of all millionaires become so through owning real estate.” Andrew Carnegie

“Buy real estate; they stopped making it.” Mark Twain

“Can a home buy you happiness? No, it can’t. But can it contribute to your happiness? Absolutely.” Brian Buffini

“Owning a home is a keystone of wealth both financial affluence and emotional security.” Suze Orman

“The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home.” Confucius

“Buy real estate, hold it and then buy some more.” Brian Buffini

“If you don’t own a home, buy one. If you own a home, buy another one. And if you own two homes, buy a third, and lend your relatives the money to buy a home.” John Paulson

“Owning a home is a magical thing. And it’s the magic I hope that you currently are participating in.” Brian Buffini

“Real estate has provided me with the income to go pursue the gifts God’s given me to go help as many people as I can. I owe that to real estate.” Brian Buffini

“As we heal our soul, from there, everything else starts to work a whole lot better.” Jon Gordon


With world events causing so much stress and anxiety, we must remember to take some time to feed our soul. In this episode, Brian interviews positivity master and eight-time bestselling author Jon Gordon about his new spiritual fable, “The Garden.” Different from Jon’s past writings, “The Garden” follows two teenagers struggling with mental health and an elderly neighbor who teaches them to overcome fear, stress and anxiety through his beautiful garden. Jon explains the Five D’s that hold us back and the strategies you need to counter each one to find peace and joy.  They also discuss the key to staying positive during tough times.



  • The role faith plays in beating stress and anxiety.
  • How to overcome the Five D’s that hold us back.
  • How to stay positive during tough times.


“The Garden,” by Jon Gordon

“Training Camp,” by Jon Gordon




“I’m sharing a framework and tips and strategies to overcome the anxiety, the fear the stress that can actually paralyze you, debilitate you and really sabotage you.” – Jon Gordon

“When I lost my job and almost went bankrupt, I found my faith through that time and it prepared me for this time right now to be a light for others.” – Jon Gordon

“When you have clarity, that drives focused action.” – Jon Gordon

“Stars shine the brightest in the dark. Positive people shine the most in adversity.” — Brian Buffini

“We need spiritual answers to matters of the heart and matters of the soul.” – Brian Buffini

“I’ve learned to talk to myself, instead of listen to myself.” — Dr. James Gills

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” — Zig Ziglar

“How do you know if someone needs encouragement? If they are breathing.” – Truett Cathy

Making sure we’re really intentional about who we give our energy to and who we don’t is key.” Molly Fletcher


In this fast-paced and pressured world, it can be difficult to know how to achieve your best and feel energized and focused. In this episode, Brian interviews trailblazing former sports agent Molly Fletcher, hailed as the female Jerry Maguire, about her innovative new book, “The Energy Clock.” Molly describes why the best athletes in the world are intentional about where they put their energy and outlines practical tools for you to properly prioritize time, give more of yourself to what’s most important and waste less of your time and resources on what’s not.



  • How to audit your energy.
  • How to seek the important.
  • How to set your energy clock.




The Energy Clock,” by Molly Fletcher

The Power of Full Engagement,” by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz



“I thought – what if I could take some of the mindset, behaviors and even a methodology that I saw great athletes and coaches use and lift it up and apply it into the world of business for business people to use so that they could not use time really as their central indicator, but rather energy, and could that, in fact, increase performance?” – Molly Fletcher

“I find, for myself, I cannot handle the volume of demand if I just manage time. It just doesn’t work. It’s all about managing energy.” – Brian Buffini

“I believe whatever you chase chases you back.” – Brian Buffini

“You better be better than your problems.” – Tom Izzo, basketball coach at Michigan State

“Relationships are integral to our business success. It’s everything. Are you putting energy in and investing in the right relationships?” – Molly Fletcher

“Relationships don’t do well without energy.” – Brian Buffini

“We can’t lead, we can’t serve, we can’t solve problems if we don’t have enough energy.” – Molly Fletcher

“If we can get really, really clear on what matters most, then what we have to have is really the discipline and the courage, at times, to say no to the things that don’t align with what matters most.” – Molly Fletcher

“Along the way, just be gentle on yourself. We have a lot of people that pull on us and we won’t get it right all the time but, the more we get it right, the more we show up as our best selves.” – Molly Fletcher

At the end of the day, I think, as dads, we have to just connect with who they are.” – Brian Buffini


With Father’s Day around the corner, dads everywhere are reflecting on what fatherhood means to them. In this episode, Brian and Joe Niego talk about their own experiences of fatherhood and what they have learned from parenting their kids – a total of 11 between them. Topics discussed include why kids must take ownership of their own decisions and learn to think critically, as well as advice for new parents and those who do not see their children every day.



  • Why it’s important to say no.
  • Why children should experience competition and adversity.
  • Why it’s vital to really connect with your kids.



“I think there’s a difference between being a father and being a friend.” – Joe Niego

“I think competition is good. I think it introduces failure. It introduces disappointment. It introduces teamwork.” – Brian Buffini

“Let’s not overly protect our children. Let them compete. Let them experience all the good and the bad that comes as a result of competing in the classroom, competing on the athletic field, competing in the music arena. Let them compete in life because it brings out the best in them when a parent isn’t there to save the day.” – Joe Niego

“There’s no such thing as failure. There’s only feedback.” – Joe Niego

“You’ve got to establish a culture for yourself and your own family.” – Brian Buffini

“The number one thing I know I do is we make sure we take time to talk.” – Brian Buffini

“In the short time I’ve been fathering, I see the whole idea of encouraging your kids to figure things out – critically think – pays huge dividends.” – Joe Niego

“When we deny the ownership, we deny the opportunity.” – Brian Buffini

“I think ownership implies responsibility. And we live in a culture where, you know, the parents take the responsibility, as opposed to the kids taking responsibility.” – Joe Niego

“I want them (my kids) to be owners of their own destiny.” – Joe Niego

“Don’t parent out of fear.” – Brian Buffini

“It’s all about effort.” – Joe Niego