If you try to build intimacy with another person before you’ve done the difficult work of getting whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.Dr. Les Parrott

Your relationships with other people are only as strong as you are. In this episode, Brian talks to best-selling author and relationship expert Dr. Les Parrott about his new book, “Healthy Me, Healthy Us,” and discovers why the single most important thing you can do to improve your relationships is to become a whole and healthy individual yourself. Topics discussed include how Les and his wife Leslie have worked together for decades to help improve people’s relationships, including cofounding the dating website eharmony.com; the importance of humility and getting feedback from others; and the value of conflict and fighting fair.



  • Why profound significance is so vital.
  • How you can lean into unswerving authenticity.
  • Why you must nurture self-giving love.




Healthy Me, Healthy Us,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Love Talk,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

The Parent You Want to Be,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” by Shad Helmstetter

The Purpose Driven Life,” by Rick Warren

Learned Optimism,” by Martin E.P. Seligman

The Shawshank Redemption” movie

Good Will Hunting” movie

Dead Poets Society” movie




“Relationships are the hub of the wheel.” – Dr. Les Parrott

“No one was designed to complete you. That’s the work that you have to do.” – Dr. Les Parrott

“Awareness is curative. Once you become aware, then you can do something about it.” – Dr. Les Parrott

“Unswerving authenticity is all about knowing your purpose, following that path and not just walking down that path, but running down that path.” – Dr. Les Parrott

“Just being yourself is good enough to be great.” – Brian Buffini

“We have opportunities to walk the extra mile in big ways and little ways.” – Dr. Les Parrott

“The happiest homes are the homes that are filled with an abundance of mutual empathy.” – Dr. Les Parrott

“Conflict is the price we pay for deeper intimacy.” – Dr. Les Parrott

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